When couples in California decide to get a divorce, those of you who are on relatively decent terms may be able to make use of mediation and collaborative law in order to have a divorce that is less fraught with combat than traditional cases that go to court.

FindLaw has a frequently asked questions page for divorce mediation, a tool commonly used by couples who want to avoid litigation. In order to do that, you must be able to reach compromises and agreements on all significant areas of a divorce. This includes things like figuring out alimony, child custody and visitation situations, and how to divide assets and debt. Obviously, this can be difficult to do on your own even if you are on good terms with each other.

This is where divorce mediators come in. They are there to act as a neutral third party whose sole goal is to help you and your spouse reach mutually agreeable decisions. They can employ a number of tactics to do so, allowing an even ground to continue existing between you both. This can make it easier to come to decision-making, as the mediator’s job is to allow both parties to feel as though they have a voice and are being heard without being spoken over.

If you are considering the benefits of collaborative divorce but would like a little extra insurance as you dive into the process, then utilizing a divorce mediator might be a good option to consider. This can help take some of the strain out of the process.